I can't or I won't! You decide.

Your choice of language influences your experience of life. The actual words you use when you talk can create a state and a perception of reality that will result in you experiencing life in a certain way. If you don't believe me, then try this little exercise:

Think of something that you would love to have that's on the more expensive side- like a new item of clothing or a holiday. Now notice how you feel when you say to yourself the following 2 statements about that expensive item:


Very few words changed in the two statements, yet they result in very different experiences.

We have a habitual way of thinking and talking that is termed our "modal operator". It reflects our beliefs about the mode in which we operate in the world.

We can operate from a mental mode of laws, where we use language like should, must, and have to. We can also function from the mental world of opportunities, where the words we would use would be possible to, can do, will, may, would, could, or from the mental world of mpossibilities, where the words commonly used would be can't, won't, shouldn't. If we tend to use words like ought to or should we are probably coming from a world view of obligation, whereas the words of want to, dare to, and desire to show a map of empowerment, and the words of choose to, like to, opt to show a world of choice.

Noticing and then adjusting the language you use according to your intention in that moment can have a profound effect on your life.
We always have the choice on how to language something- even if it feels like we don't have a choice because it has become a habitual choice, it's still a choice. The language you choose to use can describe where you are limiting yourself, and even create limits. Or, it can set you free from limitations and leave you with possibilities and choice. It all depends on how you want to experience your life.


"Don't say I can't, say I won't"- Fritz Perls


To you languaging yourself for the life you want!
Telana

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At 28/4/08 2:18 pm, Blogger Telana said...

Understanding your own modal operator style, as well as being able to identify the preferred mode of operating of another person, can be very useful. You’ll be able to change your behaviour and thus your results and experience of life. And by choosing to use words that match another person’s modal operator style, you have more flexibility to motivate and influence them.

If this is a skill you’d like to develop, then consider attending the Communication Excellence course - where modal operators will be just one of the many tools, techniques and understanding of communication skills that you will learn about.

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