I can't or I won't! You decide.
Monday, April 28, 2008
Your choice of language influences your experience of life. The actual words you use when you talk can create a state and a perception of reality that will result in you experiencing life in a certain way. If you don't believe me, then try this little exercise:
Think of something that you would love to have that's on the more expensive side- like a new item of clothing or a holiday. Now notice how you feel when you say to yourself the following 2 statements about that expensive item:
- I can't afford it.
- How can I afford it?
We have a habitual way of thinking and talking that is termed our "modal operator". It reflects our beliefs about the mode in which we operate in the world.
We can operate from a mental mode of laws, where we use language like should, must, and have to. We can also function from the mental world of opportunities, where the words we would use would be possible to, can do, will, may, would, could, or from the mental world of mpossibilities, where the words commonly used would be can't, won't, shouldn't. If we tend to use words like ought to or should we are probably coming from a world view of obligation, whereas the words of want to, dare to, and desire to show a map of empowerment, and the words of choose to, like to, opt to show a world of choice.Noticing and then adjusting the language you use according to your intention in that moment can have a profound effect on your life.
- When you need to motivate yourself notice what language gets you moving more: "I must do...", or "I can do..." or "I get to do..."
- Is your self discipline enhanced by saying "I cannot...", "I will not...", or "I choose to not..."?
"Don't say I can't, say I won't"- Fritz Perls
To you languaging yourself for the life you want!
Telana
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