I have taken the vow.
Monday, January 12, 2009
"On November 7, 2008, at 9:45 am, the 500 people attending the Alliance for a New Humanity Human Forum in Barcelona took a vow for non violence in their thoughts, speech and actions. Each person decided to ask other people in their lives to join them in taking the vow."
I have taken this vow, and if you want to help add to reaching a critical mass of people all wanting a world of peace, love and laughter, then add your vow here.
Deepak Chopra took this vow and made it public at the Human Forum. This then has developed into a global movement and the goal is to get 100 million people to make the same commitment.
I found it interesting that the vow was against violence, and not for peace. If you think about it, violence and harmony - war and peace - are two sides of the same coin. Yet the side you look at and focus on, is the side you more often see and experience.
It is important to acknowledge what we don't want in our lives and at the same time to replace it with or focus on what we do want. Our brains follow directions and if we don't give our brains an indication of what we do want, they tend to focus only on what we don't want and create more of that.
So when setting any goals or New Years Resolutions for this year, remember to word the goal in terms of what you DO WANT- that way it is more inspiring and easier for you to create in your life.
Oh, and do take the vow with me! Add your name to help reach the 100 million here on this link.
To you creating what you want this year, including world peace!
Telana
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Well formed Goals- Part 2
Thursday, April 19, 2007
Effective Goal Setting
In our last post, we looked at reasons why goals can be unsuccessful, and covered 2 key points, being defining the goal clearly, and then setting steps with deadlines to reach them.
Other points to make your Goal a very Well Formed Goal are:
Check that it is self initiated and compelling
Take care to set a Goal that you have as much control over as possible. Check that it is something you can initiate and maintain. One way to do this is to focus on goals based on personal performance, rather than on goals based on the outcome only. Outcome goals may fail due to circumstances beyond your control, which will leave you feeling discouraged. Ask yourself, "Is it within my power and ability to reach this Goal?"
Also ensure that what you are setting out to achieve is something you really want to achieve. Sometimes we set out to do what we think we ought to do, or what society or our parents or friends say we should do. You are the one who will be doing all the work, and who will reap most of the benefits! So ask yourself if this Goal is: balanced; for your own good and the good of those around you; and will be achieved in a healthy and fun way.
All these points will ensure that you feel compelled and motivated to work towards your Goal. So give yourself permission to make your Goal sparkle and to have fun achieving it!
Identify resources and remove blocks
Now that you've defined your goal, set a timeline to it, and checked that you really want it, you're at the stage where you want to ensure your success. Setting yourself up for failure is not fun! So look around you and within yourself for resources that will help you not only enjoy the journey of achieving your goal, but also ensure that you make it to your destination!
The kind of resources I am referring to is the skills, the knowledge and the beliefs you already have that support you. Your internal resources are also your states of courage, faith, determination and persistence. Resources can also be people you know, like friends and family, or someone who has already achieved what you want to achieve, and can act as a mentor to you. Books, tapes, the Internet, training programmes- there is a wealth of resources out there just waiting to help you be successful!
Taking a good, honest look at yourself and your past attempts at reaching Goals. You may notice some emotional blocks or limiting frames of mind that sabotaged you. Now would be a good time to take action on working to overcome these blocks. Depending on what is holding you back, just the awareness can shift the block. Or you may need to go through a process to remove those limiting beliefs or frames of mind (such as a specific training or coaching programme).
Also taking into account any obstacles you may have to overcome to reach your goal, and planning ways to conquer them, will ensure that you keep on track when you come across them.
Recognise evidence and ways to celebrate
It is important too to know when you have achieved your goal, or else, how will you know when to exit and move onto the next goal? So think about the evidence that will let you know that you have been successful. What can you measure or observe at each step, and at the final destination, that will show you it’s time to celebrate your success?
Celebrating in some way (like giving yourself a pat on the back or some reward) each small step you take, and again when you finally reach your goal, is an important mechanism to keep you motivated and encouraged. Be your own best cheerleader, and you'll keep going!
Write down the Goal
The difference between a Goal and a Well Formed Goal is that the latter is written in words.
Research shows us that the chance of achieving a goal is dramatically reduced when it is not written down. This is because when you write your goal down, it becomes crystallised, more focused and when you put your pen to paper, you transfer cloudy thoughts into clear, tangible points. In addition writing starts etching your goal into your subconscious and your neurology. You are then giving your subconscious mind and body a detailed set of instructions to work on. The more information you give it, the clearer the final outcome becomes.
Factor in accountability
Create accountability for your journey towards your Well Formed Goal. By human nature, we are not all that good at holding ourselves accountable. Unlike Goals, Well Formed Goal's have an external accountability system that checks in on your progress at each and every step. You might want to ask a friend or colleague to act as a 'teammate' and check on you to follow up, or even find a mentor, coach or goal setting software programme to keep you on track.
There is only one question left, once you have followed all of these points, and that is: "What stops you from moving towards your Well Formed Goal right now?" You may need to check that you are ready, that you have given yourself permission to achieve this Goal, and that you have decided to take this course of action.
Conclusion
So as you observe that it is April already, how would it be if you set aside a few hours to write out your Well Formed Goal? Can you imagine a time and place in your future when this Goal will become real to you? And what if, after you celebrate reaching your Goal, you noticed that the process of setting Well Formed Goals had become your servant, and not your master? What if it became a part of your life? Would it bring you pleasure, satisfaction and a great feeling of achievement?
Wouldn't you say that if you do not already set Well Formed Goals, that now is a great time to start?
To effective Goals!
Telana
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Well formed Goals- Part One
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
So why doesn't Goal Setting work for many people?
How many people do you hear saying that goals are a waste of time? Plenty! And that response usually comes from experiences where those people have made goals, and then failed to achieve them.
Some of the main reasons why Goals are unsuccessful are:
- The way we language them. That is, we mostly tend to talk about what we don't want when setting a Goal. We tend to make Goals in response to a negative situation or habit, and talk about moving away from that, like "quit smoking" , "spend less" or "lose weight". Yet it is far easier to move towards what we do want, rather than away from what we don't want.
- We tend to be too vague in our thinking and our expressing of our Goals. We may think to ourselves "I want to earn more". Yet what are we referring to? Would you like to earn more money? More respect? Or more time? And if it is money, for example, how much money? By when? In what way will you earn more money?
- Goals are usually not part of a plan, and have no actions and deadlines attached to them. This usually results in no follow through on achieving our Goals, and that includes not bringing any accountability into the process.
- We may have some self limiting beliefs or frames of mind. If we believe, even subconsciously, that we don't deserve to be successful, or loose weight, or be wealthy, etc, we can block ourselves from our own magnificence. Even a mindset in which we fear failure (or fear success itself) can lead to Goals being ineffective.
How to make them more effective
So if those are some of the reasons why Goals don't usually work, then what steps can we take to set a Goal that will be effective and successful?
Step one: Change the name and define the Goal
Sometimes just by changing a name of something, we can change our attitude and approach to that matter. And so it can be with Goals. Try it out! Try setting a BHAG- a Big Hairy Audacious Goal for 2006! If the phrase "Goal" has a lot of negative connotations to it, and when you think of "goals" you get an uneasy, gloomy feeling in your body from your past goals that failed, then it's time to call them something else. For example, try setting a "Well Formed Outcome" this year.
When you start to think about what you want to achieve, make sure you word it in the positive, that is, something you are moving towards. Be as specific as possible. If you keep coming up with a negative, or an away-from phrase, ask yourself "If that's what I don’t want, then what do I want instead?"
Another point to consider is keeping your Goal in tangible terms. Describe what you want in sensory based terms using what you will see, hear, feel or know, and any behaviours or events that will be part of reaching your Goal.
Identifying the contexts of your desired Goal is also important. Where, when, how and with whom do you want this Goal, and where, when, how and with whom do you not want this Goal? It is a known fact that most successful individuals have a well-outlined direction for their life, and they know what they want when, and where. They also set a number of smaller goals, which take them towards their bigger goals in life. Is your Well formed Outcome going to take you towards where you want to go long term?
Step two: Define stages and steps with deadlines
Once you know what it is you want to achieve, you need to break your Goal into bite-sized chunks. What are the steps or stages involved in reaching this Goal? By making do-able steps clear to yourself, you can make what seems to be an overwhelming goal into an achievable one.
Also, once you've identified the steps, you can then timeline them. This allows you to look at your current schedule, and any future plans you may have, and then make time in your diary to work on your Goal. By setting deadlines to each stage of your Goal, you not only set up a motivation mechanism, you also ensure that your Goal will be achieved in a realistic time frame. Deadlines also have a way of making us commit to our objective, and they can be used to measure how far we have come, and still have to go, towards reaching our Goal.
I'd like to invite you to take a few minutes to apply these first 2 steps to your Goal, and then in our next post, you will be ready to apply some more pointers to your Goal to make it really well formed and easier to achieve.
To you achieving your goals,
Telana
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